recently had a conversation I’d already had, word for word, many times.
The talk always begins the same way then dives off in one of two directions. ” is the question I ask — the logical question to ask — when a male friend describes a woman he’s been seeing regularly and exclusively. Sometimes he says, “I don’t know.” It’s as though relationships are the same as good weather, something that just happens to you.
Now, millennials opt to “hang out” instead of go on traditional dates, and somehow, everything has become more casual.
There’s more time spent trying to figure out if someone is worth spending a portion of your life with rather than getting to know them.
Developed by Mark Knapp, the Relational Development Model (also aptly known as “Knapp’s Theory”) is the sort of theory that you know about without actually knowing about.
However, we talked more recently and we both said that we aren’t dating anyone else, but we didn’t explicitly say that we are exclusive.
Ever been at a party or a function where someone is talking to you, but at the same time scanning the room looking for someone else to talk to? I can also date multiple people and still make the right choice. Dating multiple people has significantly disabled bachelors and bachelorettes from focusing on the people sitting right in front of them.
Studies show that too many options actually make it harder to choose.
Is being exclusive the same as being someone’s significant other? Old me would have said yes too, but now I think I’m changing camps.
I no longer thinks it’s possible to accidentally end up in a relationship.